'She said she is going to be wearing the same hairstyle as me': Entitled bridesmaid challenges bride's choices, attempts to implement her own changes

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    Posted by u/ThrowRAgingbutterfly 15 hours ago AITA for telling my bridesmaid that she ^ can't wear the same hairstyle as me for my wedding?
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    My (25F) bridesmaid (25F), Nola said she does not like the hairstyle I have picked for the bridesmaids and is going to be wearing the same hairstyle as me. When I told her no she got very upset.
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    My bridesmaids are wearing a messy bun, and I'll be having my hair down in Hollywood waves.
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    For context, we've known each other nearly 5 years, but haven't kept in touch much in the last 2. The only reason she's a bridesmaid is because she called me up on a
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    promise I made her 3 years ago saying that I'd make her my bridesmaid when I got married. I'm really bad at saying no, so I said yes. I got her the
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    outfit and bridesmaids accessories (I am paying for everything - they are paying for their own hair & makeup). Nola has already said she doesn't like the bridesmaids
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    outfit and asked me to change it. I was unable to as my other bridesmaids loved theirs and the dresses were non refundable.
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    I also asked my bridesmaids to wear any colour of the rainbow to my bridal shower, and I told them I'm wearing white.
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    Nola said, "I'm wearing pink" Me: Uh, sorry but pink isn't a rainbow colour. Did you want to pick something else? Nola: Fine, then I'll wear white Me:
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    That isn't a rainbow colour either and I'm wearing white, how about you wear green? Nola: I'll think about it.
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    I've already asked her to cater to my above requests (not changing the bridesmaid dress & wearing a rainbow colour for the bridal shower)
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    AITA for also asking her not to wear her hair like mine & wear it like the rest of the bridesmaids?
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    calling_water. 14 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA. But OP, she had to push you into making her a bridesmaid, and she knows it. She's self-centered and making trouble deliberately. Please tell her that since she doesn't want to do the gig as defined, she's out. Don't give her another chance or she'll show up on your wedding day looking like you. You're allowing a lot of flexibility but she's set to hit you with it.
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    This Environment6627 14 hr. ago Partassipant [2] NTA but you would be if you let her walk all over you! Sit her down and lay the law, tell her how it'll work or she can be a regular guest or not come at all
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    yekemoon 14 hr. ago · NTA but stand up for yourself and ask her to step down as a bridesmaid because it clearly isn't working out. I'm sure seems scary to do so but do you really want this stress and negativity for your wedding day?
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